I grew up in the truth and I went to college, our family took vacations all over the world, I owned a--get ready for this--a two-seater sports car, and I went to my prom. You CAN do anything you want if you're simply not afraid of what others say.
It sounds to me that many of you made decisions your really didn't want to make, or your parents did, and you blame the JW's. Anything I didn't do is my fault as I'm the one who made the decision. Some of which I wish I had made differently, but I take ownership of it.
Sometimes some of us ex-Witnesses were just pussy Witnesses who did everything for how it looked instead of making any real decisions. I put that blame mostly on ourselves not anyone else. If JW's don't want to take blood transfusions, join the military, celebrate the holidays, run for office, stand for the national anthem, get drunk, whatever, who cares?
There are very few actual rules they can't do. There are a lot more things that are simply frowned upon. If we did not choose to do those latter things whose fault is that? For me it was my own fault.